Doing Ministry Together has been amazing to be part of and
has given me many opportunities to better understand the intricacies of clergy
family life. Four points struck me the most.
Consistency of Experience
I was amazed
that the experiences of clergy spouses and children were so similar across denominations
and generations. The fact that they are so similar regardless of these factors
impressed on me just how important this research is to help churches all around
Australia to understand how ministry does affect clergy families.
Home Life Respected
I was surprised just how important appropriate separation of family and ministry spaces was to clergy spouses and children. From the reading we had done, I expected far more of a priority to be placed upon the condition of the housing supplied. Instead, we see families most commonly wanting to have more control over the ministry use of their home. I was shocked to discover that those who did not want things to change actually had a separation between ministry and family life. This sent a clear message to me: that separation of ministry from home life was their highest priority - and it can be achieved. I’d be very interested in finding out more about how this separation was managed from those who said they were happy with their home use.
I was surprised just how important appropriate separation of family and ministry spaces was to clergy spouses and children. From the reading we had done, I expected far more of a priority to be placed upon the condition of the housing supplied. Instead, we see families most commonly wanting to have more control over the ministry use of their home. I was shocked to discover that those who did not want things to change actually had a separation between ministry and family life. This sent a clear message to me: that separation of ministry from home life was their highest priority - and it can be achieved. I’d be very interested in finding out more about how this separation was managed from those who said they were happy with their home use.
Personal Attributes
Another
point that struck me was the fact that some expectations existed at all for clergy spouses and children. Expectations
regarding the faith and identity of the clergy children and spouses,
based solely upon their family connection, were concerning. This suggested to
me that not only were these personal attributes to be tailored to the ministry
setting, but that these deeply held facets of who they are, were to reflect
others’ beliefs about them, rather than their own God-given attributes or
actual faith journeys. I wonder at the type of pressure these expectations
might put on clergy family members, and would like to know more about how
spouses and children feel about them.
Understanding The Clergy Family
Lastly I
found it heartbreaking just how many clergy spouses and children felt that who
they were, apart from their family connection, was frequently misunderstood. These
responses reinforced to me how vital this research is and how important it
will be to continue to have conversations with clergy families around Australia
about the unique joys and challenges of their lifestyle. The importance of
understanding clergy family life inspired us to create public and private forums on Facebook to encourage openness about the realities of clergy family
life.
Doing this
research has encouraged me to want to further work with clergy families to understand
the unique journey that God has given them, and help facilitate the best
support possible for them.
- Matt
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